Srila Bhaktivinoda Thakura and Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati Thakura teach that a true kirtan leader or spiritual preacher possesses nothing and is only  wanting and begging, they are  acting purely as an instrument rather than a proprietor giving Krishna from a position of personal wealth or power. They are in the mood of a beggar . A begger for prema ,Srila Gour Govinda  tells the lila pastimes when Krishna becomes a begger for prema , the prema of Srimati Radharani . Humble petitioning: In the tradition of Gaudiya Vaishnavism, a true practitioner—especially one leading congregational chanting or who chants the nama ,  do not view themselves as an independent controller or a grand dispenser who “owns” or “delivers” Krishna at their own whim by preaching or chanting, sometimes Srila Gour Govinda Swami would say ” what will you preach , unless you follow you are firing blanks ”

Dependent yearning: Srila Bhaktivinoda Thakura constantly exemplifies in his bhajans the mood of a poor, helpless beggar at the lotus feet of the Holy Name and Radha-Krishna. The leader cries out for mercy rather than acting as a magnanimous master. Servant of the Servant and everyone joins in .

No personal stock: Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati emphasized that one can not manufacture hari-katha or spiritual potency through mundane talents or by thinking one has acquired the capacity to “give” God. The conduit of mercy . True glorification flows only when one sheds all pride of ability and remains trinad api su-nicena (humbler than a blade of grass), begging for the qualification to serve. The leader gives Krishna only by acting as a transparent medium, purely out of a deep, desperate petition (prarthana) for the Lord’s and the spiritual master’s mercy. As well in Kirtan, it is not about the leader , the participants in the chanting are, in many cases, more able to chant purely ,  so the leader benefits , as does everyone such  congregational chanting.

The essential elements to spirituality are humility , Srila BR Sridhar Swami would say the negative attracts the positive,  as in unlike poles attract , in the world of physics,  but like poles repel .

Separation and union work in similar ways. The more one feels a  separation in spirituality for Krishna and His family, friends, and lovers, it can, by grace, trigger intense remembrances for the Lord , by Krpa of mercy trancendence  can of its own accord decend .The Holy name is non different than Krishna Himself,  He has accepted these names given by His devotees,  says  Srila Jiva Goswami , and He agrees to appear through them  . Thus, the Holy names are the Svarupa Sakti of the Lord , one of His unlimited trancendental forms and  appearances . Each particular person, being an individual,  may experience the Holy names in different ways , according to their particular development of Krishna consciousness. Some swept of to the spiritual planes , and some beginning to realise the spiritual consciousness is different than their body or their material consciousness , when Krishna Holy name decends each experience something trancendental.

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