One should not be overly beaten into strict Conservativism or a complete suppression of character . Nor should one be infected with ultra liberalism,
leading to unrestricted selfish sense gratification like a sophisticated animal . Rather, one should lead a balanced life , under the direction of the wise ,and that is appropriate to ones station in life .Although on one level we are equal , the same time variety originates from the spiritual dimensions, oneness, and differences are the spice of life . One’s temporary body , likings and attractions can all be harmonised in the absolute bringing a flood of laughter and joy in a spiritual realm , and ultimately one develops in time and automatically a spiritual form and spiritual emotions, with pure love for Krishna and all His associates. There is no looking back .
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